power words

Copyright (c) 2008 Kenneth Anczerewicz

Science has shown that your command of practical words is the fastest way to better friendships, a better career, and general enrichment. But how do you recognize "success words"?

You can win success and popularity by developing a treasury of vital, practical words, arranged for every important type of conversation and activity.

In English, we assume that the average educated American knows common words. Now you want a superior vocabulary. But you don't want to waste your time learning words that are not vital to your success. So you first need to master "success words" before you learn lesser-used words."

The famous psychologist, Dr. George Crane, said, "Appreciative words are the most powerful force for good will on earth." Psychologists know that sincere compliments appreciation, which is a form of love mean as much to people as food, work, and the other essentials of normal, happy living. So here is one of your most important opportunities for gaining the good will that is necessary for a successful career, marriage, and for friendships, as well as the satisfaction that comes from being helpful.

If it is left to chance, most of us never master this basic vocabulary for successful living. When you take possession of a rich vocabulary, with the power and insight that it gives, you will emerge a more able, more understanding, more important person. The successful people in your field, the leaders in your community and in the world, almost always have vocabularies that are more powerful and more exact than yours.

Notice the words that they use for complimenting, influencing, discussing, enthusing, or understanding. Science has discovered that a top-notch vocabulary is the one ability that successful people share. key words have allowed these people to have success. Lack of important words can keep you from success.

Until you speak, people don't form a definite opinion of you. They are waiting for you to say something. But when you speak, either at work or socially, people instantly begin to react and rate you in the achievement and popularity categories of their minds. They begin to decide whether to like you or dislike you, whether to help you or ignore you. And the total of all the words that you speak, and all the impressions that you make, decides in large measure how successful your life will be.

Is your vocabulary commonplace and hence dull and unconvincing? Do you depend on words that are threadbare, like an old garment that should have been thrown out years ago? You most likely would lose respect for people dressed in dirty clothes. Then how can you expect to get ahead with a moth-eaten vocabulary?

Start developing a list of complimentary (success) words to draw from? For the success of your compliments is limited by your vocabulary. If the only verbal bouquets that you can give are "nice" and "terrific," you are not doing an effective job of building good will for yourself, or satisfaction for others.

n all my years of selling and marketing a product, I have come to realise that using words that emphasizes or complements your service, proposal or product can go a long way.

For example:

“By joining your organisation, I am in a strong position to make a major difference in a positive way by lavishly dedicating my proven skills, talents, qualification and experience to the ever challenging environment presented by the industry. I am not only confident in my potential to influence my team and department remarkably, I also intend on being part of a sensational history as you continue to pioneer the future of this industry.”

You can have this for free; change it into your own language and style.

Can you do the same?

I bet you can! I’ll teach you.

Power words or phrases are what you call a sort of catalyst that solidifies the point you are trying to make. Its major aim is to gain the interest of the prospect and captivate them with curiosity, admiration, excitement and a need to know more.

Your use of power words should be calculating, careful and deliberate. You need to have a purpose for using it. Don’t just use a word because it sounds good or makes you sound intellectual. It never works.

Every great speaker knows words have the power to entice, persuade and motivate people into a specific course of action. The question is, what course of action are you trying to create in a person. Where do you want the conversation to lead to. If there is anything you take from this article today, it is the fact that you must always start with the end in mind.

You don’t wake up in the morning to go to work without knowing where your place of work is.

You don’t go for an interview with out knowing where your interview will take place. What more of the conversation you have with an interviewer. Learn to start with the end in mind.

What is the main aim of a major job interview?

To get offered the job right?

How do you intend getting the job.

By selling your skills, talents, experience, achievements and qualifications directly to the need of the prospective employer and making sure you build a great rapport with the Employer.

This is the end result of going for an interview.

Great!!

Now what power words or phrases do I need to use in order to attract, gain interest and convince the prospective employer that I am right for the job. This is where you need to know what your key features are: (strengths and raw talents)

This could be: organisation skills, motivation skills, analytical skills, interpersonal skills etc Then you need to know how you have used these features. That is, it’s advantages.

This does not have to be work related.

Have you ever organised a meal out with friends, engaged in debates and triumphed?

Once you have all of this, then you need to know how these features can benefit the employer by directly relating it to the specific requirements of the prospective employer.

By knowing all of these, you can then look at a least of power phrases and power words, select the ones that best edify your features and it’s benefits.

Want an example?

I might as well!

"I am a highly motivated individual with excellent organisational skills, which has been successfully demonstrated time and time again in my personal life and at work. For example, when an event needs to be organised and managed, I am always chosen by friends to organise it because of my quick ability to get things done, energise, mobilise and motivate people in order to achieve a specific goal."

You will see that from the above statement, the two features here are:

Motivation, Management and Organisation

They are also backed by power words and power phrases such as:

Highly, excellent, successful, quick, time and time again, quick, energise, mobilise, and achieve a specific goal

I hope you can now effectively use power words and phrases effectively and productively.

Below are a few more examples:

• I am confident that I can make a positive contribution to your company/organization.

• IBM’s use of real time data analysis is of a major particular interest to me because

• I have not come across a company with a management trainee scheme as unique and as practical as yours.

• With my experience, qualification and proven record of achievement, I am convinced beyond all reasonable doubt that working for a company like yours will further amplify my true potentials which will be dedicated to contributing to the continual growth of this department.

• I would like the opportunity to further discuss my qualifications with you in an interview scheduled at your convenience.

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If you want to explore a powerful style of communication that is intended to persuade people to give their very best in any task, then you’ll be thrilled with the power persuasion technique I’m about to reveal in this article. It’s about choosing your words wisely.

You can use this power persuasion technique if you want someone to get more passionate in doing his job. By using this power persuasion technique, you can make him believe that he’s doing something far greater than the actual task at hand.

For example, don't tell teachers that they are teaching young kids because it's their job. That’s a lifeless statement. Instead, tell them that they are training and mentoring the future leaders of the world. Wouldn’t that make them feel that their work is very valuable? You bet!

Your repairman isn't just repairing, he's saving lives from any possible electrical threats. Make him aware of that.

Your chef isn't just cooking, she's eliminating hunger and satisfying taste buds. Wouldn’t that make her feel important? Absolutely!

Are you becoming aware of how powerful these power persuasion techniques are? Here’s more. You can say "nicer" terms in lieu of the original “boring” or “negative” words. This will increase your likeability and can positively affect people’s emotions.

Say, "sanitation engineer" instead of "garbage collector" and you'll get better service from him.

Say, "We have a challenging situation at hand" instead of "We have a big problem" so you can cause less anxiety.

Say, "You're getting slim" instead of "You're becoming thin" so you'll boost his self-esteem and he will see you as a nice person.

Say, “You’re often late for work and you seldom finish the task on time. Is something bothering you?” instead of “You’re always late for work and you never finish your task on time!” The words “always” and “never” are often harsh and exaggerated; “often” and “seldom” are more subtle and do not convey that he is doing the irresponsible act all the time.

Say, “You could have given him a chance” instead of “You should have given him a chance.” “Could have” implies that he had a choice, which could then serve as a moral to make better decisions in the future. On the other hand, “should have” attacks the ego and sounds like a forced thing to do.

Using the right words is a very powerful power persuasion technique, so be careful in your choice of words.

In the universe, there are two great forces at work. We know them as good and evil or positive and negative. They are two powerful forces in their own right. In similar fashion, there are positive words and negative words, each causing opposite reactions when used by humans. We all know how positive words can make us feel good and inspire us, and how negative words can bring us down and led us to pain, anger or sadness. We have seen how positive words bring people together, build nations and how negative words destroy friendships, start wars, etc. Positive words and negative words work the opposites and they affect how the law of attraction manifests our thoughts.

How do we lift up a disheartened person? Definitely with positive words. We don't use negative words to lift someone's spirit up. Our mind works in the same manner. Positive words are food for the mind and they work magic. They send out strong vibrations to make our wishes a reality. Great self-development gurus use positive words to inspire and motivate people to reach their goals. When we use negative words like "can't", "impossible", "maybe", "if", "whatever", the mind will register a negative tone and the vibrations that we get is minimal, if any. When we use positive words like "for the good of all", "I can", "I will", "thank you", and "I love you" in our daily life, we become creative and magnetic. Our mind vibrates and sends out positive waves to the universe. When we greet someone with "Good morning", the feeling resonates and affects the other person. Such is the power of positive words. Negative words are like poison. They will wear us down. Negative word is a rejection. Just like in ordinary lives they can break a relationship and they can also do the same with our mind, cutting off our receiving power and negate us. To work the law of attraction, we have to get rid of negativity and start to think and speak differently.

To explain in an analogy, negative words are like cholesterol in the blood stream. They hang on to the artery walls and slow down the flow of blood. In the end, we develop health problems like hypertension, which will lead to other complications. We have to get rid of this cholesterol in order to survive and lead a healthy and meaningful life. But unlike bad cholesterol, negative words are easy to get rid of. Just don't use them! Keeping negative words in our vocabulary is toxin for the mind, for when we start to send our thoughts to the universe, our vibrations get hindered by the presence of these negative words, and as a result we get very weak vibrations. People who use the law of attraction but refuse to get rid of the negativity in their thoughts end up with frustration and blame that the law doesn't work for them. We can't make the law work unless we get rid of that stockpile of negativity from our vocabulary. That is the reason why when we are angry, the sooner the anger is released, the lighter we feel in our heads with a great sense of satisfaction. That is our subconscious telling us we have disposed off what is just excess baggage in our heads. We have to regurgitate all those negative words out of our system. From today onwards, let us only use beautiful and positive words. The English language has plenty of them.

Get rid of the feelings of hatred, jealousy, bad vibes that we have of others. They are not necessary and they just wear us down. They are just clutter in the brain and block our access to work the law of attraction. With positive words and positive thoughts, the vibrations that we send with our thoughts will get quality manifestations and quality results.

Even though they might seem relatively innocuous, our words and thoughts do, indeed, have a lot of power and in fact determine what our own reality is.

We are not the first to recognize this fact. In fact, wise people throughout the ages have seen just how prevalent this is. For example, William Blake, the poet, said, "We become what we behold." The Buddha himself said, "With our thoughts we make our world." These are just two of the wise minds that have seen this process evidence in action.

What words to use, then, that can create this kind of power?

Let's take the often used phrase, "Yes, but." In effect, what you are doing is trying to overcome someone else's opinion by suppressing it. In effect, what you have just done is completely discounted their opinion with the word "but." If you are someone who does this often (or even occasionally), it really blocks you from being able to communicate effectively with other people, and is also not particularly fair to that person. If you would not use this, you could simply acknowledge the other person's point of view and send the message that although you might not agree with the other person's point of view, you still allow the other person his or her full power. In other words, you don't want to disempower anyone else even if you disagree with his or her idea.

You can overcome this by saying, "Yes, and" instead of, "Yes, but." The word "and" is inclusive, and allows for both opinions to be present and equally valid. It also allows for much more open communication to flow, instead of blocking it.

Your self-talk, too, can be either and powering or disempowering. For example, do you say to yourself a lot of the time that you "must" or "have to" do something? This indicates that you think you have no choice in the matter, when, of course, you do. This type of self-talk disempowers you. If you listen to others talk, you sometimes also can sense this feeling of disempowerment in them.

If you want to change this self talk so that you realize you have a choice in the matter and thus to empower yourself, first, keep track of how often you say the words "should" or "must." These usually instill feelings of guilt or obligation, and thus some this empowerment to a least some extent.

Other more general words that also hinder communication are "never," "forever," and "always." First of all, it is rarely true that something is "always" or "never" true. There are almost always exceptions. Therefore, if you or someone else is using the words "never" or "always," you are generalizing and not truly handling the matter at hand in reality. For better communication, avoid this type of generalization when you speak with someone.

Another word it's usually good to avoid if you can is "try." Of course, if you don't know whether or not you can do something, then you are going to "try" to do something. You won't know whether you can are or not until you try something if you haven't attempted it before. However, for communication situations, it's usually best to avoid this word because if you say you are going to "try" to get a task done for someone, you are not committing yourself to it. Therefore, you should say you either can or cannot do it. By stating whether or not you can firmly, you commit yourself to an answer one way or the other.

The more careful you are with the words and phrases used, the better your communication can be. You'll find that just a little attention to these areas will greatly enhance your communications with others and may even transform your relationships in general. Watch and see what happens. You just might be amazed.

"I aspire to inspire before I expire." Kinky Friedman

In a town not far from me, a group of four town office employees were fired from their jobs for gossiping because they referred to the town administrator in derogatory terms and discussed a rumor that he was having an affair with another female employee. This incident served to remind me of the power of words.

Words are so much more than just a group of letters or sounds that come out of our mouths. Words, especially those filled with feeling or emotion, have energy--energy that can lift us up or cut us down. Impassioned speech can truly inspire us, while words that are used in a derogatory manner or to spread a false rumor carry negative energy to all who hear them.

To know the power of words, try to think back to your childhood and recall a time that someone said something to you that you've carried with you ever since. Was it positive or negative? I can remember being about 13 when my favorite aunt scolded me for eating too much and she used a judgmental voice to tell me I was going to get fat. (She was no slender reed herself!) For some reason this has always stayed in my memory while much more cruel things said to me by others have not - maybe because I didn't expect her criticism. These were words filled with a negative emotion which transformed into a tiny piece of pain that I've carried as a memory ever since. The words no longer hurt me, but at the same time, I won't ever forget them.

It's important for us to keep in mind the power of speech to both inspire and inflict pain. We need to be aware of the things that come out of our mouths, to think about the words before we say them. This is especially true for parents because of how impressionable the mind of a child is. But as the incident mentioned at the start of this article points out, it is important in any environment including work.

So what can you do to help monitor your speech and choose your words more carefully? One technique is before you make a comment to or about someone, ask yourself the following three questions: 1) Is this true? 2) Is this kind? and 3) Is this necessary to say?

These questions can help you analyze what you're going to say before it slips out of your mouth and hurts someone unnecessarily. Using these questions does not mean that you never say something that is unkind, untrue, or unnecessary. But it does mean that you will have thought about it first. Telling your spouse that you no longer love them may not be kind, but if it's true, it may be necessary. But gossiping to a co-worker that the boss is having an affair is probably unnecessary, unkind, and possibly untrue.

Using these questions gives us all a chance to think for just a moment before we speak. Our world is full of untrue, unkind and unnecessary words that are constantly doing damage. And if we take a moment to consider our speech, we may find it possible to change what we say to carry a more positive energy - maybe we can even inspire someone!